30 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

Relationships are like plants; they need nurturing, attention, and just the right amount of water (and love) to thrive. While it’s easy to get caught up in the grand gestures – lavish dates, surprise getaways, or declarations of eternal devotion – sometimes the most meaningful parts of a relationship come from small, consistent actions.

If you want big success in your relationship, it’s often the little things that count. Here are 30 simple tricks to help your relationship bloom.

 

1. Contents

   • 1 Compliment, But Make It Specific
   • 2 Send Random Texts
   • 3 Leave Little Notes
   • 4 Laugh at Their Jokes (Even the Bad Ones)
   • 5 Remember Important Dates
   • 6 Make Eye Contact
   • 7 Ask, “How Was Your Day?” and Actually Listen
   • 8
   • 9 Surprise Them with Their Favorite Snack
   • 10 Share an Inside Joke
   • 11 Cook Together
   • 12 Initiate a ‘No-Distraction’ Policy
   • 13 Help Each Other with Chores
   • 14 Write a ‘Reasons I Love You’ List
   • 15 Be Their Biggest Cheerleader
   • 16 Make Time for ‘Just Us’ Time
   • 17 Notice When They’re Having a Bad Day
   • 18 Show Appreciation, Big and Small
   • 19
   • 20 Ask Their Opinion
   • 21 Be Playful
   • 22 Speak Their Love Language
   • 23 Don’t Keep Score
   • 24 Be Their Safe Space
   • 25 Make a Playlist
   • 26 Bring Up Good Memories
   • 27 Be Honest, but Kind
   • 28 Make Them Feel Like the Only One
   • 29 Let Them Win Sometimes
   • 30 Surprise Them with ‘Just Because’ Gifts
   • 31
   • 32 Create a Relationship Ritual
   • 33 Say ‘I Love You’ Like You Mean It
   • 34 Need Help Remembering All These Tricks?

   Compliment, But Make It Specific

Telling your partner they look nice is great, but telling them “That outfit makes your eyes sparkle” takes it up a notch. Specific compliments show that you’re paying attention, and that never goes unnoticed.

 

2. Send Random Texts

Text your partner a sweet message for no reason at all. Something like, “Just wanted to say I’m thinking about you. Can’t wait to see you tonight!” Let them know they’re on your mind.

 

3. Leave Little Notes

Whether it’s a sticky note on the mirror or a handwritten note tucked in their bag, a little reminder of your love goes a long way.

 

4. Laugh at Their Jokes (Even the Bad Ones)

It’s not just about laughing – it’s about making them feel good. If they crack a joke and you giggle, even if it’s a bit lame, you’re saying, “I like your humor. I like you.”

 

5. Remember Important Dates

Birthdays, anniversaries, or that day they got their big promotion – knowing and celebrating these dates shows that you’re attentive and invested in their happiness.

 

6. Make Eye Contact

It sounds simple, but it’s one of the most powerful tools in a relationship. Looking into their eyes during conversations shows you’re fully present, not distracted by your phone or the TV.

 

7. Ask, “How Was Your Day?” and Actually Listen

And no, the conversation shouldn’t end at “good” or “fine.” Ask them questions, follow up, and give them your full attention. It’s how you show that you care about the little details of their life.

8. Surprise Them with Their Favorite Snack

Whether it’s a bag of chips or a homemade cookie, surprising your partner with a little treat can make their day.

 

9. Share an Inside Joke

There’s something special about a joke that only the two of you understand. It creates a bond that no one else can touch. Plus, it’s a guaranteed mood booster.

 

10. Cook Together

Whether it’s a complicated recipe or something simple like scrambled eggs, cooking together can lead to laughter, teamwork, and a whole lot of fun.

 

11. Initiate a ‘No-Distraction’ Policy

For 30 minutes a day, put away your phones and tablets and focus solely on each other. A no-distraction zone builds trust and strengthens your connection.

 

12. Help Each Other with Chores

Nothing says “I love you” quite like jumping in to do the dishes or vacuuming without being asked. It’s the little things that add up to a big impact.

 

13. Write a ‘Reasons I Love You’ List

Take 15 minutes to jot down the reasons why you love your partner. Then share it with them. This simple act can make both of you feel warm and fuzzy.

 

14. Be Their Biggest Cheerleader

Support them in their passions, whether it’s running a marathon, taking up a new hobby, or pursuing a career change. Your belief in their dreams can be a game-changer in your relationship.

 

15. Make Time for ‘Just Us’ Time

In busy schedules, it’s easy to let quality time slip away. Schedule a regular ‘date night’ or just time together at home without distractions.

 

16. Notice When They’re Having a Bad Day

And don’t just ask if they’re okay – be proactive. Bring them tea, give them a long hug, or let them vent. Sometimes just knowing someone’s there makes all the difference.

 

17. Show Appreciation, Big and Small

Thank them for the things they do – whether it’s taking out the trash, listening when you rant about your day, or just being themselves. Appreciation builds love.

18. Ask Their Opinion

Show them you value their input by asking their opinion, whether it’s about a movie to watch or a decision you need to make. It makes them feel heard and respected.

 

19. Be Playful

Throw a pillow at them, playfully challenge them to a game, or create an impromptu dance party in the living room. A little playfulness keeps things exciting.

 

20. Speak Their Love Language

Are they into words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch? Find out what makes them feel loved and make that your priority.

 

21. Don’t Keep Score

Relationships aren’t competitions. If one of you goes out of your way to do something nice, don’t tally it up. Just enjoy the gesture and let it go.

 

22. Be Their Safe Space

Let them be their true selves without fear of judgment. That’s what true love and trust look like.

 

23. Make a Playlist

Compile a playlist of songs that remind you of your partner or songs you want to listen to together. It’s a fun, sentimental way to keep the music of your relationship alive.

 

24. Bring Up Good Memories

Remind each other of fun trips, silly moments, and those ‘remember when’ stories. Nostalgia is a bonding powerhouse.

 

25. Be Honest, but Kind

Being honest is vital, but remember to frame your words with kindness. If you need to discuss something serious, do so with respect and empathy.

 

26. Make Them Feel Like the Only One

When you’re with your partner, be present. Put away your phone, don’t talk about work, and let them know that, in that moment, they’re the only one that matters.

 

27. Let Them Win Sometimes

Whether it’s a game, an argument, or a debate, letting your partner win once in a while keeps the relationship balanced and fun.

 

28. Surprise Them with ‘Just Because’ Gifts

These gifts don’t have to be extravagant – sometimes it’s the small things, like their favorite candy or a quirky mug, that make the biggest impact.

29. Create a Relationship Ritual

This could be something simple like sharing a cup of coffee every morning, watching your favorite show together, or a weekend walk. These routines create familiarity and comfort.

 

30. Say ‘I Love You’ Like You Mean It

And say it often. These three words are powerful, but only if you say them in a way that shows you really mean it.

 

Need Help Remembering All These Tricks?

If you’re trying to remember all these little relationship tricks and how they can make a big difference, the Wizdom app has your back. It’s designed to help you create daily habits and relationship goals, so you never forget to keep the spark alive. With fun reminders, relationship tips, and easy-to-follow challenges, Wizdom is your trusty companion in making sure your relationship isn’t just good, but truly great.