Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Lesson 1. When in love, men and women show it in very different ways.

Although we expect our partners to behave exactly like us, it is hardly possible in reality. This makes us frustrated and confused, and we feel like they are alien to us. In this book, author John Gray examines heterosexual relationships, and helps us understand our partners better. He gives us simple tips to alleviate tensions, and build intimacy. This is only possible if we accept our partners as being different people, who behave in different ways in different situations. Respecting each other’s differences will help us bond better. 

In general, when in love, men and women show it in very different ways. They are as different as Martians would be from Venusians. We often hear women complain that their partners do not listen to them. When women feel overwhelmed, they seek a patient and empathetic ear for relief. Men on the other hand, wrongly assume that their partner is looking for solutions. They think that their job is to solve the problem. In return, they desire to be loved and appreciated. On the other hand, women only want someone who would listen to them. As a result, neither does the woman get the listening ear, nor does the man feel appreciated and loved for his solutions. 

This can be avoided by paying attention to the woman and giving her the space to speak up her mind. Give her your undivided attention, and do not jump to solve her issues. 

Men, on the other hand, prefer not to talk about their problems and isolate themselves. They retire into their caves. As a result, he temporarily disengages from the relationship. He does not want to burden his partner with his problems. He does not want her to worry. He only wants to be left alone. It is difficult for a woman to understand that need. They try to help their partners by offering ideas for improvement. This only serves to trigger their insecurities further. If both the sexes work on understanding and listening to each other, they can achieve harmony.

Lesson 2. How to communicate effectively and motivate the opposite sex.

Men like it when they feel needed by their partners. When they do so, they act out of genuine love and concern. On the other hand, women love taking care of their partners. They love to validate their men. When she feels loved by her partner, she has more and more love, and validation to offer. But when men and women fail to understand each other’s needs, they fail to make their relationship work. Then they do