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Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

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Book by: John Gray

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Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a 1992 classic that addresses some of the most common relationship problems, and how to solve them. The author points out the fundamental psychological differences between men and women, that make them respond differently to love and affection. They also demand very different things from their partners. The author gives us simple tips to address these differences to form a healthy, and sustainable bond.

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Lesson 1. When in love, men and women show it in very different ways.

Although we expect our partners to behave exactly like us, it is hardly possible in reality. This makes us frustrated and confused, and we feel like they are alien to us. In this book, author John Gray examines heterosexual relationships, and helps us understand our partners better. He gives us simple tips to alleviate tensions, and build intimacy. This is only possible if we accept our partners as being different people, who behave in different ways in different situations. Respecting each other’s differences will help us bond better. 

In general, when in love, men and women show it in very different ways. They are as different as Martians would be from Venusians. We often hear women complain that their partners do not listen to them. When women feel overwhelmed, they seek a patient and empathetic ear for relief. Men on the other hand, wrongly assume that their partner is looking for solutions. They think that their job is to solve the problem. In return, they desire to be loved and appreciated. On the other hand, women only want someone who would listen to them. As a result, neither does the woman get the listening ear, nor does the man feel appreciated and loved for his solutions. 

This can be avoided by paying attention to the woman and giving her the space to speak up her mind. Give her your undivided attention, and do not jump to solve her issues. 

Men, on the other hand, prefer not to talk about their problems and isolate themselves. They retire into their caves. As a result, he temporarily disengages from the relationship. He does not want to burden his partner with his problems. He does not want her to worry. He only wants to be left alone. It is difficult for a woman to understand that need. They try to help their partners by offering ideas for improvement. This only serves to trigger their insecurities further. If both the sexes work on understanding and listening to each other, they can achieve harmony.

Lesson 2. How to communicate effectively and motivate the opposite sex.

Men like it when they feel needed by their partners. When they do so, they act out of genuine love and concern. On the other hand, women love taking care of their partners. They love to validate their men. When she feels loved by her partner, she has more and more love, and validation to offer. But when men and women fail to understand each other’s needs, they fail to make their relationship work. Then they do

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Famous quotes from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

  1. "When men and women are able to respect and accept their differences, then love has a chance to blossom."
    2. -John Gray
  2. "Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation."
    3. -John Gray
  3. "After learning, please be realistic. Give yourself permission to keep making mistakes. We must also give ourselves the gift of understanding that we can’t remember everything we learned at once."
    4. -John Gray
  4. "When she says 'I feel like you are not even here,' he says 'What do you mean I’m not here? Of course I am here. Don’t you see my body?'"
    5. -John Gray
  5. "I would love you all the day, every night we would kiss and play, if with me you’d fondly stray, over the hills and far away."
    6. -John Gray
  6. "It is not enough to merely be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well."
    7. -John Gray
  7. "As a man matures he also learns that he may be giving up himself, but his major change is becoming more aware of how he can succeed in giving. Likewise, as a woman matures she also learns new strategies for giving, but her major change tends to be learning to set limits in order to receive what she wants."
    8. -John Gray
  8. "When a woman’s wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love."
    9. -John Gray
  9. "A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw."
    10. -John Gray
  10. "If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow."
    11. -John Gray
  11. "Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished."
    12. -John Gray
  12. "If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win."
    13. -John Gray
  13. "It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied."
    14. -John Gray
  14. "Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions."
    15. -John Gray
  15. "Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences."
    16. -John Gray
  16. "When the student is ready the teacher appears. When the question is asked then the answer is heard. When we are truly ready to receive, then what we need will become available."
    17. -John Gray
  17. "Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding."
    18. -John Gray
  18. "Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs."
    19. -John Gray
  19. "Learning from mistakes helps prevent the repetition of negative patterns."
    20. -John Gray
  20. "When negative feelings are suppressed, positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies."
    21. -John Gray
  21. "Life is filled with rhythms—day and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and fall, cloudy and clear. Likewise, in a relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles."
    22. -John Gray
  22. "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a manual for loving relationships. It reveals how men and women differ in all areas of their lives. Not only do men and women communicate differently, but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently. They almost seem to be from different planets, speaking different languages and needing different nourishment."
    23. -John Gray
  23. "Men primarily need trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement. Women primarily need caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance."
    24. -John Gray
  24. "Practice biting your tongue whenever you get the urge to offer a solution or change how she is feeling. You will be surprised when you experience how much she appreciates you."
    25. -John Gray
  25. "Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed... Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished."
    26. -John Gray
  26. "This same change commonly takes place in men and women as they mature. In her younger years, a woman is much more willing to sacrifice and mold herself to fulfill her partner’s needs. In a man’s younger years, he is much more self-absorbed and unaware of the needs of others. As a woman matures she realizes how she may have been giving up herself in order to please her partner. As a man matures he realizes how he can."
    27. -John Gray
  27. "A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings."
    28. -John Gray
  28. "A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the home-improvement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism."
    29. -John Gray
  29. "A man needs to work at remembering that complaining about problems does not mean blaming and that when a woman complains she is generally just letting go of her frustrations by talking about them. A woman can work at letting him know that though she is complaining she also appreciates him."
    30. -John Gray
  30. "When a man can listen to a woman's feelings without getting angry and frustrated, he gives her a wonderful gift."
    31. -John Gray
  31. "He makes it safe for her to express herself."
    32. -John Gray
  32. "The more she is able to express herself, the more she feels heard and understood, and the more she is able to give a man the loving trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement that he needs.
    33. -John Gray
  33. "Love brings up our unresolved feelings. One day we are feeling loved, and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love."
    34. -John Gray
  34. "The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love."
    35. -John Gray
  35. "Not to be needed is a slow death for a man."
    36. -John Gray
  36. "Books can inspire you to love yourself more, but by listening to, writing out, or verbally expressing your feelings you are actually doing it."
    37. -John Gray
  37. "We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways—the ways we react and behave when we love someone."
    38. -John Gray
  38. "Mental chemistry creates interest, Emotional chemistry Generates Affection, Physical chemistry generates desire, and Spiritual chemistry creates love. A soulmate includes all four...and I will not settle for anything less!"
    39. -John Gray
  39. "Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems."
    40. -John Gray
  40. "Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own."
    41. -John Gray
  41. "Fortunately, perfection is not a requirement for creating great relationships."
    42. -John Gray

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John Gray is a relationship counselor and psychologist. His work explores gender differences in communication, offering insights into relationships. Gray’s teachings emphasize understanding and bridging the gap between the emotional needs of men and w...

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Chapter List
  • Lesson 1. When in love, men and women show it in very different ways.
  • Lesson 2. How to communicate effectively and motivate the opposite sex.
  • Lesson 3. Different intimacy cycles and how it affects men and women.
  • Lesson 4. Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex.
  • Lesson 5. How to Communicate Difficult Feelings.
  • Lesson 6. How to Ask for Support and Get It.
  • Lesson 7. Conclusion.
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In the summary of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus book, there are 7 key lessons. These lessons include:

  1. Lesson 1. When in love, men and women show it in very different ways.
  2. Lesson 2. How to communicate effectively and motivate the opposite sex.
  3. Lesson 3. Different intimacy cycles and how it affects men and women.
  4. Lesson 4. Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex.
  5. Lesson 5. How to Communicate Difficult Feelings.
  6. Lesson 6. How to Ask for Support and Get It.
  7. Lesson 7. Conclusion.

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