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The 5 Love Languages

The Secrets to Love That Lasts
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Book by: Gary Chapman

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This book by pastor and marriage expert Gary Chapman, is the key to developing, understanding, transforming and strengthening interpersonal relationships. It outlines five general ways in which romantic partners express and experience love. Chapman terms these as the ‘Love Languages’. Every individual is unique, and their needs and expectations for love are different. This book is meant to be a guide to a happy and healthy relationship. It is essential for two people in a relationship to be consistent with their love and equally reciprocate their feelings. A relationship will flourish only when both the individuals will feel loved. Learning about one’s own love language and understanding the love language of your partner will make sure that interpersonal conflicts have a higher chance of getting resolved. It will also maintain the balance of love between two people. Understanding each other will ensure that the relationship is not a tumultuous one.

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LESSON 1. Everybody has their unique love language. 

Some couples love each other. However, they don’t know how to express that love properly. They do not feel loved because of the lack of communication. Hence, it is essential to understand the love language of an individual in order to love them in a way that they deserve to be loved. When people speak different love languages, it gets difficult trying to understand what different acts of love mean to different people. Acknowledging the fact that everyone has a specific love language is the first step towards understanding the needs and expectations of someone.

Psychologists have proven countless times that the need to love and feel loved is primarily a human emotional need. We need to feel loved, to be emotionally and mentally happy. However, people experience love differently, and certain gestures of love mean different things to different people. 

Knowing your partner’s love language is an essential step towards understanding the psychological and emotional needs of your partner. This in turn will ensure that you know how to make your partner feel loved and appreciated. Divorce lawyers, marriage counselors and relationship experts emphasize the need to make sure that both the people in a relationship feel loved. Most divorce stories begin from one partner not feeling adequately loved or appreciated. Simultaneously, they often feel emotionally disrespected by their spouse/partner. 

In order to have a happy relationship, one that runs its course without too many hurdles, one must communicate with their partner about what makes them happy, appreciated and loved. Most partners prefer direct communication and are more likely to cater to their partner’s needs if it has been directly communicated. Family therapist Sarah Clark concludes that warning signs like a change in your partner’s routine, like constantly being on the phone, being secretive or having late shifts at the office, are all signs of problematic marriages. 

Many individuals often feel intimidated to put forth their demands regarding how they want to be loved. However, communicating and being clear about what one needs in order to be emotionally well and happy, is precisely what makes the relationship smooth. It is important to note that there is not a single person who can fulfill all our needs. It is therefore important to identify our primary love language. A relationship only grows stronger through the understanding of each other’s love languages. 

LESSON 2. Love is a basic emotional need of humans.

Love is one of the simplest, yet one of the most complex feelings that we experience. If one

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Famous quotes from The 5 Love Languages

  1. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.
    2. -Gary Chapman
  2. I am amazed by how many individuals mess up every new day with yesterday.
    3. -Gary Chapman
  3. People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.
    4. -Gary Chapman
  4. For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.
    5. -Gary Chapman
  5. The person who is "in-love" has the illusion that his beloved is perfect.
    6. -Gary Chapman
  6. What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.
    7. -Gary Chapman
  7. Something in our nature cries out to be loved by another. Isolation is devastating to the human psyche. That is why solitary confinement is considered the cruelest of punishments.
    8. -Gary Chapman
  8. The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth.
    9. -Gary Chapman
  9. The best thing we can do with the failures of the past is to let them be history.
    10. -Gary Chapman
  10. Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment. It is a choice to show mercy, not to hold the offense up against the offender. Forgiveness is an expression of love.
    11. -Gary Chapman
  11. Recent research has indicated that the average individual listens for only seventeen seconds before interrupting and interjecting his own ideas.
    12. -Gary Chapman
  12. Most of us have more potential than we will ever develop. What holds us back is often a lack of courage.
    13. -Gary Chapman
  13. Psychologist William James said that possibly the deepest human need is the need to feel appreciated.
    14. -Gary Chapman
  14. In fact, true love cannot begin until the in-love experience has run its course.
    15. -Gary Chapman
  15. I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do.' That is love's ultimate expression.
    16. -Gary Chapman
  16. Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes. It means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person.
    17. -Gary Chapman
  17. We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.
    18. -Gary Chapman
  18. Material things are no replacement for human, emotional love.
    19. -Gary Chapman
  19. We fail to reckon with the reality of human nature. By nature, we are egocentric. Our world revolves around us. None of us is totally altruistic.
    20. -Gary Chapman
  20. Verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love.
    21. -Gary Chapman
  21. Love is always a choice.
    22. -Gary Chapman
  22. Dr. Dorothy Tennov, a psychologist, has done long-range studies on the in-love phenomenon. After studying scores of couples, she concluded that the average life span of a romantic obsession is two years.
    23. -Gary Chapman
  23. Mark Twain once said, I can live for two months on a good compliment.
    24. -Gary Chapman
  24. We need not agree on everything, but we must find a way to handle our differences so that they do not become divisive.
    25. -Gary Chapman
  25. We are influenced by our personality but not controlled by it.
    26. -Gary Chapman
  26. Can emotional love be reborn? You bet! The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it.
    27. -Gary Chapman
  27. Life’s deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments but in relationships.
    28. -Gary Chapman
  28. Our spouse will usually interpret our message based on our tone of voice, not the words we use.
    29. -Gary Chapman
  29. There is a third truth, which only the mature lover will be able to hear. My spouse’s criticisms about my behavior provide me with the clearest clue to her primary love language.
    30. -Gary Chapman
  30. Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse’s perspective. We must first learn what is important to our spouse. Only then can we give encouragement.
    31. -Gary Chapman
  31. Inside every child is an 'emotional tank' waiting to be filled with love. When a child really feels loved, he will develop normally but when the love tank is empty, the child will misbehave. Much of the misbehavior of children is motivated by the cravings of an empty 'love tank.'
    32. -Gary Chapman
  32. Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me, who sees in me something worth loving. That kind of love requires effort and discipline. It is the choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that if his or her life is enriched by your effort, you too will find a sense of satisfaction—the satisfaction of having genuinely loved.
    33. -Gary Chapman
  33. Camp out in the living room. Spread your blankets and pillows on the floor. Get your Pepsi and popcorn. Pretend the TV is broken and talk like you used to when you were dating. Talk till the sun comes up or something else happens. If the floor gets too hard, go back upstairs and go to bed. You won’t forget this evening!
    34. -Gary Chapman
  34. We speak and understand best our native language. We feel most comfortable speaking that language. The more we use a secondary language, the more comfortable we become conversing in it. If we speak only our primary language and encounter someone else who speaks only his or her primary language, which is different from ours, our communication will be limited. We must rely on pointing, grunting, drawing pictures, or acting out our ideas. We can communicate, but it is awkward.
    35. -Gary Chapman
  35. When I sit with my wife and give her twenty minutes of my undivided attention and she does the same for me, we are giving each other twenty minutes of life. We will never have those twenty minutes again; we are giving our lives to each other. It is a powerful emotional communicator of love.
    36. -Gary Chapman
  36. But if, once we return to the real world of human choice, we choose to be kind and generous, that is real love.
    37. -Gary Chapman

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Dr. Gary Chapman, a renowned counselor and author, is acclaimed for his book “The 5 Love Languages.” A marriage expert, speaker, and pastor, Chapman’s insights delve into relationships, emphasizing effective communication and understanding...

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  • LESSON 1. Everybody has their unique love language. 
  • LESSON 2. Love is a basic emotional need of humans.
  • LESSON 3. Changing relationships and the value of communication. 
  • LESSON 4. Understanding the needs of both yourself and your partner.
  • LESSON 5. Words of affirmation and spending quality time. 
  • LESSON 6. Gifts, acts of service and physical touch. 
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In the summary of The 5 Love Languages book, there are 6 key lessons. These lessons include:

  1. LESSON 1. Everybody has their unique love language. 
  2. LESSON 2. Love is a basic emotional need of humans.
  3. LESSON 3. Changing relationships and the value of communication. 
  4. LESSON 4. Understanding the needs of both yourself and your partner.
  5. LESSON 5. Words of affirmation and spending quality time. 
  6. LESSON 6. Gifts, acts of service and physical touch. 

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