You’re Not Enough (And That’s Okay)

Lesson 1. Introduction.

Most of us are out on the search for self-love. We seek self-acceptance and self-validation, which is why we listen to countless self-help gurus, social media personalities, and even religious teachers. But, this is an endless pit, and more often than not, we fail to find what we are looking for. 

Stuckey, in her simple yet provocative book, calls out this toxic culture of self-help and self-love. She points out that it is our sense of inadequacy and insecurity that sets us off on this futile path. According to Stuckey, the truth is, we are not meant to be perfect or adequate. This inadequacy is absolutely fine.

The cure that Stuckey suggests, is turning to God. Instead of making ourselves the center of the world, we should seek support, fulfilment and happiness from God. We need not worry about not being self-sufficient and perfect, because God is. It is He who’ll lead us to wisdom and satisfaction.  

Lesson 2. You are not enough.

Soon after graduating, Stuckey was informed by her therapist that she was suffering from a life threatening eating disorder. She gradually understood that this disorder was the result of her attempt to love herself.

Stuckey had undergone a disturbing breakup in her senior year. Her eating disorder stemmed from an unhealthy desire to lose weight and get skinnier, just so that she is found attractive by others. She felt that being skinnier would earn her more male attention. And it did. 

Although she had accepted Christianity in her final semester at college, she hadn’t stuck to practising it. Following her diagnosis, Stuckey had a breakdown, and she requested for God’s help.

She realised at that moment that the root of her problem lay in her belief that she was enough and perfect. She accepted that she could not heal herself, because she simply did not have what it takes to do so. 

Stuckey embraced Christ as her anchor and source of fulfilment. She realised that she wasn’t enough or perfect because God is. All answers and solutions don’t lie inside us. Sometimes, we have to turn to God as a source of sustenance and support. 

We don’t carry all the answers to life’s woes. God does. 

Lesson 3. You don’t determine your truth.

Stuckey talks about a girl named Chloe who took a path of self-destruction, following a tragic incident in college. In her sophomore year, Chloe was brutally raped by a group of fraternity boys after a party. She suffered from PTSD and got addicted to drugs and alcohol. She managed to get